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Round 4 of The Hard Things ... and still the master of none of it
The hardest part of grief, I am still finding, is just how little control I have over my reactions or my ability to dictate them when...
lizmecham
Feb 2, 20224 min read
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Three years and a bit of ink later…
This year’s third anniversary of Pete dying was weird. Weird is not the right word. But it’s the only word I can find that fits. The...
lizmecham
Jan 25, 20223 min read
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Christmas 2021: not bad, actually good.
I love Christmas. Our last 3 have been … challenging. And so this year I was determined to take it back. For me, if no one else. Three...
lizmecham
Dec 27, 20213 min read
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I joined Tinder for 20 minutes ... then ran away
So just for fun - I joined Tinder. I lasted 20 minutes. The whole idea of online dating or online meeting someone is so completely...
lizmecham
Oct 2, 20216 min read
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Why do I insist on walking up mountains?
I walked up a volcano recently. Facebook memories told me that it had been a year since I’d last walked up a mountain. Almost on the same...
lizmecham
Sep 24, 20214 min read
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Father’s Day in lockdown
This weekend we front up to Fathers Day in lockdown. And frankly, I’m tired of having to adult and parent through these days, and I don’t...
lizmecham
Sep 3, 20213 min read
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2.5 years later …
The passage of time is an obscure thing. In the early days I was counting hours and days. Then it became weeks and months. Weirdly the 6...
lizmecham
Jul 20, 20213 min read
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#grateful and why it’s equally true and a bullshit thing to deal with
This school holidays and tested my resilience with dealing with change and challenges. Grieving has taught me that I know so much of what...
lizmecham
Jul 11, 20214 min read
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I can do this … and other lies I tell myself to do things my brain tells me I can’t.
Sovereign Hill was always somewhere Pete and I wanted to take the kids. We talked endlessly about wanting to. But just never got around...
lizmecham
Jul 4, 20212 min read
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Oh, for crying out loud!
Today is all sort of blergh… I’ve been trying to work out why. Facebook memories tell me it’s a year to the day since we scattered Pete’s...
lizmecham
Jun 28, 20213 min read
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This is how I’m doing it … please just back me in instead of telling me what else to do
Writing about my grief seems to be a double edged sword. It’s largely cathartic – it helps me get things out of my brain, this blog is...
lizmecham
Jun 16, 20218 min read
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Grief is so sneaky
Grief - I am coming to learn - is a sneaky sod of a thing that appears out of no where and can smack you for six and leave almost as...
lizmecham
Apr 26, 20217 min read
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Alone time: It’s been a bit nothing ... but I’ve contemplated everything
With all this time on my hands with kids away for 10 days, you would think I would be lazing around and enjoying it. It is, after all,...
lizmecham
Apr 15, 20215 min read
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The Hard Things: Round Three ... including possibly the hardest.
My ability to completely psych myself out with anticipation, over how I will do or cope with things, is one of the worst things I have to...
lizmecham
Mar 22, 20214 min read
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Resurfacing got hard when I realised I didn’t get to say goodbye...
At the end of last week, I was about as non compos mentis as I have been in 2 years. My world was all just too much. I had every one and...
lizmecham
Mar 22, 20216 min read
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When lockdown, a shop and reality is just all too much - the dishes are always there for you.
The last week/10 days has been, for want of a better set of words - a complete fuck fight. Having just settled back into routine -...
lizmecham
Feb 21, 20217 min read
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Memories - the good, the bad, the hurtful.
I love getting lost in memories through photos. I always have. Looking back on photos and remembering the time and place and talking...
lizmecham
Jan 29, 20214 min read
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Righto, Year Three... let’s do this
I don’t even know how to get my head around the fact yesterday marked two years without Pete. I spent more of yesterday in tears than I...
lizmecham
Jan 22, 20215 min read
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A whole calendar year without Pete and the end of Year Two smashing us for good measure
To say I was happy to see the back of 2020 is an understatement many people have oft repeated. I struggled with it on many fronts, but I...
lizmecham
Jan 14, 20214 min read
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The slow and uncomfortable change that sadly leaves the enjoyment of the past behind
I’m currently finding myself struggling to come to terms with the change that just continues to need to happen since losing Pete. It...
lizmecham
Jan 14, 20216 min read
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