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Climbing the physical and metaphorical mountain
The difficulties of the last couple of weeks have really been plaguing my brain. There have been many niggling things in my head that I...
lizmecham
Jun 14, 20206 min read
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Ashes aren’t actually ash
There are many things you learn as part of this grieving process... laughing at ridiculously morbid things has been one of them. In the...
lizmecham
Jun 14, 20204 min read
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A very laughy (& lengthy) podcast about a ridiculous situation
So... a couple of weeks ago I recorded a podcast. It’s now live. For someone with a dead husband, I seem to laugh a lot while recounting...
lizmecham
Jun 9, 20201 min read
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Urgh ... at the minute it's hard ... but I wouldn't have missed the dance
One of the oddest things I’m finding about grief is how quickly things can go from totally ok, to completely falling apart, lurching back...
lizmecham
May 30, 20204 min read
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What’s in the box...?
There has been a box sitting on a side table in our kitchen for over a year. It had all the stuff that was previously on that table...
lizmecham
May 24, 20202 min read
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'Estate finalised' is a surprisingly emotional statement to read and live with...
The finalising Pete’s Estate has been a weird bag of emotions. Mostly it’s sad and empty feeling, with a whole lot of weight attached....
lizmecham
Apr 27, 20204 min read
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When things are just a bit hard and a bit shit ... carry on
To try and give us some capacity to cope with the current isolation situation, we have come home to my parents’ farm in the NSW Riverina....
lizmecham
Apr 17, 20204 min read
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Round two of The Hard Things ...
All through last year I had a very large number of people tell me: you just have to get through the first year. And I did. And we...
lizmecham
Mar 26, 20203 min read
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Smiling eyes, crying eyes and everything in between.
Sometimes I find myself able to predict the days that are going to be hard. And then there is this week. Which is seemingly an emotional...
lizmecham
Mar 5, 20204 min read
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So much changes, so much doesn’t...
The thing I’ve discovered lately is that despite the amount of time passes, nothing changes. And everything changes. But there’s still...
lizmecham
Feb 23, 20206 min read
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Opinions - everyone’s got one
Everyone has heard the adage about opinions and everyone having them. I just never expected so many to be given to me about my grief and...
lizmecham
Jan 27, 20204 min read
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How do you mark one whole year?
The anniversary of Pete’s death was like this big ‘thing’ we all had in our head with no idea how to tackle. I mean, what do you do? It’s...
lizmecham
Jan 24, 20205 min read
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Being alone makes you realise how lucky you actually are
This week I have been childless and spending time on my own. It’s an odd experience for me who basically hasn’t had any time in my own...
lizmecham
Jan 17, 20205 min read
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The party without the original party planner
Celebrating my 40th birthday without Pete wasn’t something that was ever going to happen. He was always going to be front and centre of...
lizmecham
Jan 14, 20204 min read
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How the festive season went down mostly with tonic water and champagne
So Christmas and New Years has come and gone. Come and gone in a whirl of anxiety, overly generous presents, wine, family, gin, friends...
lizmecham
Jan 5, 20203 min read
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The ominous looming of Christmas and the end of the first year
It’s the end of the year and I have zero idea how we are going to negotiate the next month with what it holds. It is now 11 months since...
lizmecham
Dec 20, 20194 min read
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FML and other popular thoughts at the minute
This whole widowing thing has a lot of horns on it at the minute and it has been a pretty extraordinary learning curve that just keeps...
lizmecham
Nov 25, 20194 min read
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The challenge of ballet concerts and a wedding
Last weekend I successfully navigated one of the most logistically and emotionally challenging weekends to date. If I thought some of the...
lizmecham
Nov 19, 20194 min read
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Loads of ashes and how not everyone is ok with that
One of the big advantages to having Pete cremated was that if anything happened to the significant pieces of jewellery, there would be...
lizmecham
Nov 19, 20193 min read
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There is a lot of anger in widow land ... but I’m not angry
I have fallen down a few rabbit holes on Instagram recently following hastags relating to widows. I have no idea when and how it started....
lizmecham
Nov 11, 20197 min read
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